relationships..

When do you know you are doing too much for someone and they arent reciprocating enough? How do you realize that maybe you are dedicating too much time into a relationship and the other person is just not ready to dedicate the time? It works both ways. Maybe sometimes you are the one that isnt doing enough? There are many extents, and dimensions to this. Sometimes this can mean, one end of the relationship is going out of their way in the sense, to make sure you call, text, see their partner as much as possible, where as the partner just waits for their other half to do everything and they just participate. Where as other times, and myself being a witness to this, one partner may be so involved in the relationship that they are willing to go all extents such as, doing work like laundry, cooking, and other chores, for their partner of 9 months.

What does this mean? Does this mean that the relationship is over? It is just too complicated to make things work? But how can you tell? If it doesnt mean the relationship is over, how do you fix it? If one person is used to doing all the work and their partner used to things being done for them, how do you make them change? As a witness, as a friend you want to help and tell their friend that they are being taken advantage of. It takes 2 to make things work.

If the issue is something is small or if one person isnt completely devoted to their partner, its easy to make the person realize of how things are turning out for their relationship, but as time goes on it gets harder and harder for a person to change, because they become accustomed to doing things, and little by little, the intensity of the work gets harder and harder.