80/20 Rule

i previously knew about the 80/20 rule of photography, and for example you should take more pictures rather than less, because out of 100% probably only 20% are good. Well, i never really heard about the 80/20 rule in relationships.

i'm going through a rough time in my relationship i have been in for over three and a half years. sunday i decided that things needed to change, because i knew we were both unhappy and i felt like each of us were just waiting for the other to make a move, like in the snow drift example professor baldwin explained. the thing i'm struggling with is figuring out what or who takes the 80 or the 20. i don't know if i'm the 80% i am unwilling to give up, or if he is the 80% i am willing to give up. in that same manner i don't know if by calling it quits for now, if i will be happy alone, or more happy than i know we both were in the relationship, hence the 20%. it's something i have been struggling with for a while now and it finally came to blows.

love isn't something that is affecting my decision. i know without a fact that it is present on both sides. that will be there forever and i believe has the ability to start things up again if we both get to a good place personally. am i naive to think this way, to hope for the best? i just know that i needed to take a jump for myself, and maybe after all said and done we will both turn out as better people???