I was against "Online Dating Websites"

I was logged on my facebook account and I just noticed that they have an online sating application. Seems like there are more people into that nowadays. I have to say I have always been against this. I'd hear about online predators and the thought of it would send a chill down my spine. I've been conversing with some of my co-workers on this and how they feel about it. It's kinda funny because I'm in a wedding in August and it just so happens that it's a match.com wedding. Go figure!!! I work with the person that's getting married in this wedding and when I asked her about it a while ago she mentioned that "Time has changed and we all live such busy lives with work and trying to be career oriented that it has become hard to meet and start meaningful relationships" those were her exact words. Has it come to this...really? She felt that all you find in bars and clubs, if you're into that type of night life, are jerks or guys who are just looking for fun. I don't necessarily agree with that, because you can find a really nice guy or gal at a bar or club sometimes, but I have to say that I was so against it until now. I have been dating someone for a month now from match.com and he is putting every guy I have dated so far to shame. My co-worker says "I finally met my match on match". She is genuinely happy and they make the cutest couple, but is it possible to find your perfect match?

We have been going back and forth on this topic because I have been so against it for so long and now I recommend it to others. Some people will argue that with all the technology advances nowadays, these applications or websites support society's "judge a book by it's cover" mentality, just because you can look at someone and judge by how they look. However, everyone has their own preferences and if you ask any psychologist they will tell you that a person's physique is the first thing that we all look at when meeting someone in real life. Does that mean we are all superficial then? Of course not. We all have our preferences and we like to stick to them. My co- worker said that despite this "we all know that it's not all a person has to offer and beauty fades with age. What matters most is the beauty that someone has inside". We all value being treated with respect and we look for chemistry, compatibility, humor, culture, etc. Let’s say that you found a picture of someone that looked really good, and decided to talk to this person. If you are looking for a real relationship and you noticed that this person is a jerk, narcissistic, and or just stupid, there’s no way you are going to give a person like this a chance no matter how they look. We also have to remember “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. What you think looks good to you is not the same for some. We all come in different shapes and sizes and we all have someone that likes any of our shapes and sizes as well. Most importantly is what we have inside that makes us special. So from now on, I will shut my mouth in terms of how I felt about these sites because I like the guy I'm dating...lol!