"Wait for me alright? I'm still a boy down there"

I wanted to explain further something I said in our first class. It has to do somewhat with my last post but needs it's own cool title (which is from Junesong Provision by Coheed and Cambira [Their old stuff, none of that new, other people know it now, stuff]). I was talking about the new male conundrum I believe exists in which progressive thought on gender is present alongside traditional masculinity. I'm dissapointed that an evaluation of new masculinity is almost immediately juxtaposed against the difficulty of being a modern women. That's because my point isn't that men are unique in having contradictory roles, but rather the nature of that contradiction is unique in itself. It is beyond arguement that women (previously, currently, and mostly likely for some time in the future) have an unfair role in our society and the strive for women's equality is much more relevant and frankly more interesting. For me, the word femininity has always had possitive a correlation, where as masculinity conjures ideas of violence and overall "dumb jock-ness". The basis of my arguement is that society feels the same way. If that isn't the case, then my point is moot. Assuming it is, what's a boy to do? I'm comfortable with who I am, sure, but I'll always be incredibly self-conscious that the vulnerable person I am and (some) people like will hurt my appeal to the opposite sex because men are still expected to be (even by many cool women I've met) a little tougher/quiet/vague than complete openess will allow. Hopefully, it's all my own neuroses and there's a nice lady out there who has a thing for guys who've cried when they watched Notting Hill.